How to sow and institutionalize beautiful beliefs in children?

Mehr news agency, community group; Fatima Atefi:

Beliefs are transferred to children by society, family and other people and are evident in their speech. Modifying the lifestyle as a place for the emergence of beliefs is very necessary in raising a child. In addition, correcting a child's speech indirectly can lead to the formation of correct beliefs in him.

The first principle regarding the transmission of beliefs to children is that any belief that prevails in the family affects the children's mood and shape. So the main transmitter of belief to children is families. Let's note that these beliefs and convictions are naturally evident in the behavior and speech of parents and have an effect on children in the same proportion.

Traits are passed from family to children. In the sense that; The lifestyle of the family is formed based on beliefs and causes the shape of the children. Based on this, the family is sad or happy, lively or dull, regular or irregular, active or inactive, each of which is the result of parents' beliefs and lifestyle, affects the shape of children and leads them in the same way.

Child's speech, an indicator of the education process

The negative effects on children that are imposed on them by the words of others can be identified by recognizing the child's speech. The speech of the child means any event that is revealed by him voluntarily or involuntarily.

Teaching the concept of permission is another task that should be paid attention to in order to establish correct beliefs in children. One of the most important beliefs that parents need to remind their children is having privacy and the necessity of obtaining permission in this privacy. This belief causes the power of piety to appear in a person. In the Holy Quran, it is prescribed to tell your minor children to ask permission to enter their parents' room at three times: morning, noon and night. A child who faces the concept of permission and emphasis on it from the beginning of childhood. In the following years, he will be able to understand the necessity of obtaining permission from the authority of taqlid and guardian of jurisprudence and put himself on the path of God's permission.

The basis of the belief that needs to flow in the child's form is his sense of honor and sovereignty

The basis of belief that needs to flow in a child's form is his sense of honor. Therefore, anything that harms this sovereignty, such as breaking promises and lies, will cause great harm to him. But taking care of children's sense of sovereignty and dignity is the most important thing in raising children who are raised according to the best values.

It should be noted that events from parents that are transmitted to children through comments, silence and words are more effective in the formation of the child's faith. It is desirable that these three components are free from any mistake, neglect and cancellation. Special importance should be given to these behavioral components. The gender of this importance can have a significant effect in disciplining the child.

Avoiding inducing insecurity and bullying is also effective in forming healthy beliefs in children. The literature of parents should not be the literature of conflict, tension and threat because in this kind of literature, insecurity in life is instilled in the child and his faith in the facts is damaged.

The speech of the child can be properly disciplined using words or stimulation of the senses, so that its content Tayyab and cleared and at the same time proper control should be done in its occurrence.

It is necessary for parents to make each other's place special and glorious for their child. In particular, the mother must transfer the position of the father's guardianship, which is an important and essential position, to the child. Giving practical importance and attention of parents to the other party is more effective than verbal advice and instructions for dry respect.

The creation of a child's correct perception of the characteristics of the Lord or true God is dependent on the child's relationship with his parents. This relationship should be such that the child knows his parents as harmonious and united, faithful to promises, kind, forgiving, providing sustenance, supporting and covering mistakes.

Another problem is creating fear in the child, which can disrupt the natural abilities and desires of this age period and cause many problems in the movement and actions of the child.

Disturbed sleep, anxiety in behaviors, nail biting, nocturnal enuresis, and problems in controlling bowel movements can be signs of parents' incorrect methods in providing a calm and happy environment for the child.

Correct and logical provision of the child's needs is effective in creating a sense of security in him

A child's inner feeling towards himself is directly related to the amount of honor, respect and dignity that others give him. For example, instilling beautiful traits in the child in the game or in daily communication has a great role in the realization of those traits in him, traits such as kind, well-mannered, cheerful, charming, beautiful, clean and tidy, etc.

It should be noted that teaching the concept of permission to enter the parent's room is better to be done gradually in different ways, such as story games, etc., and until it is fully understood, parents should continue training on their empowerment strategies.

It is important that any useful education such as language, concepts of science, familiarity with animals, Quran, poetry, stories And… it can Be included in the child's program along with the play space and desire. Otherwise, it will have negative effects.

Threatening, punishing and instilling fear in order to do or not do something has unstable effects in shaping behaviors and speech in children.

The emotional connection of parents or caregivers with the child is very important in creating a sense of security and trust in the child; This communication should clearly show itself in the words of the parents, the tone and type of addresses, loving behavior such as hugging, welcoming and seeing them off, and even prayers.

And finally teaching emotions and what the child feels at the moment such as happiness, sadness, anger Through play or other attractive methods, it is effective in becoming aware of the inside and controlling the external behaviors of the child, and it will create deep beliefs in adulthood.